My wife’s greatest dream came true today. She is in Heaven. The cancer is gone, the pain has ceased and all her tears are dry. Joey is in the arms of her beloved brother Justin and using her pretty voice to sing for her savior.
At 2:30 this afternoon, as we were gathered around her, holding hands and praying... my precious bride breathed her last. And a moment later took her first breath on the other side.
As I held her hand and kissed her goodbye one last time... I was reminded of another dream of hers that came true. A few months ago through the gracious help of Kathy Olen, a friend of ours in Nashville, and many others... I had been sent a short video that Dolly Parton had made for Joey.
From the time she was four years old, Joey had been singing Dolly’s songs and dreamed of one day meeting her. Coat of Many Colors was a regular part of our show and at home, she loved to put on Dolly and listen to “Hello God,” “When I Sing For Him,” “Me and Little Andy,” and many others. She never got the chance to meet her in person and had no idea that Dolly even knew who she was. But that changed one Friday evening this past November.
Joey’s family, Russdriver, and I gathered around Joey’s bedside to watch the movie “Hope Floats” with her (one of the few movies Joey knew and loved). But instead of pushing play on the DVD, I pushed play on the video I had received... and we all watched Joey watch. It was the most beautiful moment I have ever been part of...
Though this is and has been, a time of many tears of sorrow, it has also been a time of countless tears of joy. There have been too many beautiful moments to count or even begin to share in this blog. But I try.
When a person has been through as much pain and struggle as Joey’s been through, you just want it to be over. You want them to not have to hurt anymore, more that you want them to stay with you. And so, it makes the hard job of saying goodbye just a little easier.
After four-and-a-half months in Indiana, we will soon be back home in Tennessee. Me, and our little one, with our older daughters. It’s hard for me to imagine being there without Joey, but at the same time... it is where she wants us to be. It’s where she will be... She’s gonna be in the mint growing beside our back deck, the sweet-corn frozen in our freezer, and a million other places that her hand and heart have touched around our little farmhouse and community. Joey will still be with us. Everywhere.
So if it’s okay, I’m gonna close, wipe my tears, and pack our bags to hit the road headed south.
She’s already got a head-start on me.